Saturday, 3 November 2018

How to be Happy by Doing Just 7 Days of Small Acts of Kindness 

  Way back when you were small, some wise adult probably explained to you that not only does being kind make the world a nicer place to live in and other people happy, it also makes you happy too. It was great advice to get you to stop hitting that one annoying kid in your kindergarten class, but was it actually true?
  If you've ever looked around at our cutthroat world and wondered about the value of kindness, recent research out of Oxford University is for you. Using rigorous science it proves that just seven days of small, random acts of kindness is enough to bring significantly more joy to your life.

15 ideas for random acts of kindness to get you started

  Is this the most gob-smacking, unexpected scientific finding you'll ever hear about? No. But it is one of the most important and practical. Living in a modern world saturated with loneliness, division, and gloom, this study is a lovely reminder that making both yourself happier and the world a bit better is within reach.
  To make putting this research to use even easier, the team behind it helpfully included a list of small acts of kindness they gave to study participants to spark ideas and help anyone begin their own mood-boosting regime of daily kindness.
  "We specifically selected acts based on affordability, ease of opportunity and commonality," note the researchers, so most of the following suggestions should be within your reach no matter your means or specific situation:
  1. Give a book, some art, or music -- and include a note of kindness
  2. Ask someone if you can help them with a problem
  3. Meditate on kindness
  4. Buy coffee for someone
  5. Send a handwritten note or thank you card to someone
  6. Share a positive newspaper or magazine story
  7. Give a plant
  8. Spend time with someone who is lonely
  9. Pick up litter from around your home or office
  10. Do a favor for a neighbor (i.e. water their garden or trim their hedge) 
  11. Invite someone to watch a film with you
  12. Bake a treat and give it to someone
  13. Donate useful items
  14. Leave a generous tip
   15. Write a positive comment on a blog     


   Go ahead and make a pledge to do at least one small act of kindness for the next seven days and let us know how it affects you in the comments. 


     Source: https://www.inc.com/jessica-stillman/just-7-days-of-small-acts-of-kindness-will-make-you-happier-oxford-research-proves.html

The Surprising Power of The Long Game

   It’s easy to overestimate the importance of luck on success and underestimate the importance of investing in success every single day. Too often, we convince ourselves that success was just luck. We tell ourselves, the school teacher that left millions was just lucky. No. She wasn't. She was just playing a different game than you were. She was playing the long game.
  
  The long game isn’t particularly notable and sometimes it’s not even noticeable. It’s boring. But when someone chooses to play the long game from an early age, the results can be extraordinary. The long game changes how you conduct your personal and business affairs.


  There is an old saying that I think of often, but I’m not sure where it comes from: If you do what everyone else is doing, you shouldn’t be surprised to get the same results everyone else is getting.
  
  Ignoring the effect of luck on outcomes — the proverbial lottery ticket —doing what everyone else is doing pretty much ensures that you’re going to be average. Not average in the world, but average to people in similar circumstances. There are a lot of ways not to be average, but one of them is the trade-off between the long game and the short game.

The Short Game

  The short game is putting off anything that seems hard for doing something that seems easy or fun. The short game offers visible and immediate benefits. The short game is seductive.
  • Why do your homework when you can go out and play?
  • Why wait to pay for a phone in cash, when you can put it on your credit card?
  • Why go to the gym when you can go drinking with your friends?
  • Why invest in your relationship with your partner today when you can work a little bit extra in the office?
  • Why learn something boring that doesn't change when you can learn something sexy that impresses people?
  • Why bust your butt at work to do the work before the meeting when you can read the executive summary and pretend like everyone else?
  The effects of the short game multiply the longer you play. On any given day the impact is small but as days turn into months and years the result is enormous. People who play the short game don’t realize the costs until they become too large to ignore.
  The problem with the short game is that the costs are small and never seem to matter much on any given day. Doing your homework today won’t give you straight A’s. Saving $5 today won’t make you a millionaire. Going to the gym and eating healthy today won’t make you fit. Reading a book won’t make you smart. Going to sleep on time tonight won’t make you healthier tomorrow. Sure we might try these things when we’re motivated but since the results are not immediate we revert back to the short game.
As the weeks turn into months and the months into years, the short game compounds into disastrous results. It’s not the one day trade off that matters but it’s accumulation.
Playing the long game means suffering a little today. And why would we want to suffer today when we can suffer tomorrow. But if our intention is to always change tomorrow, then tomorrow never comes. All we have is today.

The Long Game

  The long game is the opposite of the short game, it means paying a small price today to make tomorrow’s tomorrow easier. If we can do this long enough to see the results, it feeds on itself. 
From the outside, the long game looks pretty boring:
  • Saving money and investing it for tomorrow
  • Leaving the party early to go get some sleep
  • Investing time in your relationship today so you have a foundation when something happens
  • Doing your homework before you go out to play
  • Going to the gym rather than watching Netflix
… and countless other examples.
  In its simplest form, the long game isn’t really debatable. Everyone agrees, for example, we should spend less than we make and invest the difference. Playing the long game is a slight change, one that seems insignificant at the moment, but one that becomes the difference between financial freedom and struggling to make next month’s rent.
  The first step to the long game is the hardest. The first step is visibly negative. You have to be willing to suffer today in order to not suffer tomorrow. This is why the long game is hard to play. People rarely see the small steps when they’re looking for enormous outcomes, but deserving enormous outcomes is mostly the result of a series of small steps that culminate into something visible.

Conclusion

  In everything you do, you’re either playing a short term or long term game. You can’t opt out and you can’t play a long-term game in everything, you need to pick what matters to you. But in everything you do time amplifies the difference between long and short-term games. The question you need to think about is when and where to play a long-term game. A good place to start is with things that compound: knowledge, relationships, and finances......
Source: https://fs.blog/2018/10/long-game/